Workaholics and overachievers are those most at risk…

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Legs crossed in a relax position enjoying calming view.
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You’ve heard of burnout; ‘the state of being stressed and overwhelmed whilst meeting constant demands’, but have you ever considered the opposite? A state of focus and motivation so strong that it spills into your weekends and holidays? There have been studies into Paradise Syndrome for over twenty years and most of us will probably self diagnose ourselves by the end of this article. Why isn’t it spoken about more?

This year has caused us to reevaluate our goals and ambitions. It’s left us scrambling for inspiration and heavily reliant on our own mindset. We have been inundated with ‘multiple…


SELF-IMPROVEMENT

Our constraints don’t disadvantage us, they help us.

Girl in pink swimming costume jumping into a lake. Mountains are behind her.
Girl in pink swimming costume jumping into a lake. Mountains are behind her.
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Logistically speaking, we can all do everything. Rarely is something solely dependent or restricted to talent or capability alone. And even when it is, there is nothing preventing you from taking a few piano lessons to uncover that you are in fact the next Beethoven.

As we watch our friends succeed in their relevant fields, we have a tendency to think that perhaps we too could prosper in said endeavor. And by all means, we could — but it doesn’t mean that we should.

The number of things we can achieve is subject to time, resources, predisposition, and energy. Instead…


SELF

Healthy methods of detachment to stop you from grieving the past.

An open book with a red bookmark in the middle of a forest.
An open book with a red bookmark in the middle of a forest.
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For the majority of us, 2020 meant change — a lot of it. It has given us a fresh perspective on priorities and given us the opportunity to come to terms with what makes us unhappy. With this new-found knowledge came ease to decipher between what we should carry into the future and what needs to be left behind.

During our lives, we shed life like a snake sheds its skin. We leave behind partners, friends, family relationships, jobs, and homes. Some through our own decisions and others completely out of our control. …


SELF IMPROVEMENT

We are coping with more issues than we possess.

Woman sitting on a tree trunk by the lake in front of picturesque mountains.
Woman sitting on a tree trunk by the lake in front of picturesque mountains.
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As we’re inundated with endless lists of things that can be wrong with us, have you ever considered that maybe, there is in fact, nothing wrong with us?

Perhaps, the things that we perceive as wrong are actually just unique experiences in our human existence? Experiences that are individual to each of us. Yet the second that we find something different, we seek to change it and compare ourselves to the people around us. When we fail to find it in others, we panic and perceive it as ‘wrong’.

Psychotherapist turned author Susan Henkels explains this notion in her latest…


FRIENDSHIP

Playing the blame game is easy.

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Woman dressed in white sitting on a chair looking through a window.
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It isn’t always an obvious thing. Rarely do we ever want to hurt anyone — especially those closest to us? When a friendship becomes to feel toxic, it can be natural to assume that you’re on the receiving end and played no part in it becoming that way.

Have you ever looked back at a conversation with a friend and felt guilty? Perhaps, an icky feeling of: ‘I shouldn’t have brought that up’ or ‘Maybe I emphasized how well I’m doing a little too much’. …


LIFE LESSONS

An animated movie without a love story, revolutionizing our perception of life…

Animated Disney character in a grey hat and turtle neck.
Animated Disney character in a grey hat and turtle neck.
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The new 2020 Disney Pixar movie voiced by the likes of Jaime Foxx and Tina Fey has skipped its theatrical release and headed straight for Disney+. There is a lot to learn from this inspiring animation and with its storyline centered around personal goals and life lessons, (rather than the typical love story cliché) — it’s a refreshingly motivational film for kids and adults combined.

The film sees Joe Gardner, a middle-aged music teacher feeling unfulfilled in life until he finally gets the opportunity to perform in a famed jazz quartet. Unfortunately, that same day, he dies and is forced…


TRAVEL

The CEO of Royal Cruises compares COVID will have as significant effects as 9/11

Airport seats in front of a window showing a white and blue plane
Airport seats in front of a window showing a white and blue plane
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There is no doubt that we will feel the effects of COVID in years to come, and this is most true for the industry that has consequently suffered the most; travel. 174 million jobs have been lost in tourism in 2020 and there have been societal shifts identifying travel as the culprit for the spread of Covid-19. It is to no surprise then that the CEO of Royal Cruises believes that the effects of COVID will be comparable to that of 9/11 in that it will change travel forever.

I know myself, along with many others are hoping that the…


Sometimes we don't lack motivation — we lack infatuation.

Man standing on rocks in the water looking out at the sunset above the ocean.
Man standing on rocks in the water looking out at the sunset above the ocean.
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It’s been a troubling year — one that proved difficult to be inspired by. From redundancies to cabin fever, to grief, we’ve been left feeling deflated. We have reflected and overanalyzed our productivity in 2020 and our pace towards the life that we want. It may feel like the spark of inspiration that we once could feel from achieving and dreaming is far out of reach, but there are things we can do to reignite it. To find a new burning desire for life. …


SELF

Taking these into the future will mean this year wasn’t a waste.

Colourful sign with lots of quotes and images.
Colourful sign with lots of quotes and images.
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There have been endless consequences of this grueling year. Some proved unbearable until we came out on the other side, more inspired and grounded than ever. Millions of people lost their jobs, we learned that our own values and those of our friends don’t necessarily align, and we were left with time to consider whether our lives were truly ours. Did we create them or fall into a routine that became our lives.

Many of us are looking forward to 2021 as the rainbow after the torrential downpour…


MENTAL HEALTH

Outsmarting 2021 anxiety could be our biggest superpower yet

Woman in mask gripping her head in front of a black background.
Woman in mask gripping her head in front of a black background.
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Whether it’s cabin fever, redundancy, loss, or general Covid anxieties, this year has caused us to be exposed to more uncertainty than ever. Uncertainty creates unease and feelings of stress. Some of us may have taken this year as one to motivate — plan dream trips, and prepare and be inspired for what the future could bring. For the rest, it has caused us to become irrational, emotional, and reserved.

I recently watched the 2013 documentary Antarctica: A Year On Ice where viewers get to watch the day-to-day of living and working during the endless months of darkness in the…

Sandra Michelle

Law Graduate in London. Encouraging new perspectives. Writer for Better Marketing, P.S I Love You, The Ascent & Mind Cafe. Top Writer in Love & Self Improvement

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